“I love clothes, but with my lifestyle I hardly ever get to dress up. In fact, I haven’t really enjoyed fashion in years!”
That’s what a friend told me the other day, and I’ve heard similar versions of the same story from other women, too.
It’s so sad!
With many countries still operating under COVID restrictions, our lifestyles just aren’t what they used to be.
But for many people (myself included!), we’ve never had very active social lives.
I work in hospitality, which means that on weekends, I’m at work – usually until late in the evening. My days off are always during the week.
I’m also an introvert – the opposite of a social butterfly – and I’d rather catch up with a friend for a mid-week lunch than go to a party.
But I also love fashion. I once kept a gorgeous pair of party heels for years in the hopes that I’d one day wear them. But either the event never came or when it did, I didn’t have the courage to wear them, and in the end I gave them away still unworn!
We all have stories holding us back from dressing the way we’d love to. Maybe you have to wear a uniform to work, and you think you’d put more effort into your wardrobe if you were free to wear what you wanted. Or you tell yourself you’ll wear nice clothes once you lose weight. Or nobody else around you has any fashion sense, and you’d feel like the odd one out if you looked stylish. Or you don’t have the budget to buy in-season clothes all the time, so you figure, why bother?
But you don’t have to “dress up” to enjoy fashion!
I have just as much fun creating my everyday outfits as I do on the (rare) occasions when I dress up. In fact, I like casual looks more because they’re comfortable and I’m less likely to overthink them. And I don’t spend a lot of money on clothes – if it fits well and is reasonable quality, it doesn’t bother me if it’s from Target! Like the casual summer dress I’m wearing in the photo above.
If you’re not used to feeling great about your appearance every day, then when the time comes to dress up you’ll feel awkward and uncomfortable instead of like a celebrity. Because it’ll be so different from how you dress yourself on a daily basis.
Looking great is NOT about wearing fancy, expensive clothes. It’s really about:
- Garments that fit properly
- Flattering styles for your body shape
- Colours that enhance your features
- Details that reflect your personality
- Well-groomed hair & tasteful makeup
If you get used to incorporating these into your daily outfits, it’ll feel like a step up rather than a gigantic leap when it’s time to dress nice.
I challenge you to wear at least ONE thing every day that you feel great about. It can be anything. Maybe it’s a beautiful pair of earrings. Or a perfectly fitted pair of jeans. Or even a lovely bra that no one sees but you.
You are allowed to love what you wear every day, not just on special occasions.
Fashion isn’t just for party girls. If you wear clothes (and most of us do), you can enjoy them!
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